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Taking care of yourself: Physically, mentally and emotionally

Self-care when your child is in hospital looks different for everyone. It’s about finding what recharges you and gives you energy mentally, physically and emotionally.

Parents often share that when their child is on cancer treatment, they feel like they’re in ‘full-on survival mode,’ focusing every moment on their child’s health. In these overwhelming times, it’s completely understandable if routines, self-care, personal time, and many aspects of life get put on hold.

Here at Redkite, we know during such challenges, the things which usually help you to relax – exercise, catching up with friends, or spending a few quiet moments just for you, can seem out of reach.

Yet, with treatment being lengthy and intense, it might be helpful, if possible, to weave some of those moments into your weeks. Self-care looks different for everyone. It’s about finding what recharges you and gives you energy. These moments don’t have to be big or elaborate, sometimes, small things can help bring a sense of calm.

If you ever feel the need for a gentle pause or a bit of extra support, here are some ideas to consider, only if they feel right for you.

Physically – Taking care of your body

  • Check in with your health:
    It’s normal for feelings of overwhelm and worry to manifest physically bringing exhaustion, headaches, nausea, tightness in the chest, or changes in sleep and appetite. If you notice any changes or feel concerned, consider a check-in with your GP or another health professional.
  • Rest when you can:
    Getting enough sleep might feel more difficult right now. A good night’s sleep, a nap, a few deep breaths, or a moment of stillness, can be a small gift to yourself.
  • Nutrition:
    Aim to nourish your body with balanced meals but be gentle with yourself if preparing meals is not always possible, especially during hospital stays or overwhelming times. Consider simple, easy-to-prepare options or take advantage of available meal services and support from friends or family.
  • Exercise:
    Try to engage in whichever type of exercise normally brings you energy. Whether it’s a gentle run, a walk, yoga, or stretching, choose what feels right without adding pressure.
  • Engage in hobbies:
    If possible, find time for activities that bring you joy and a sense of normalcy. Whether it’s reading a few pages of a book, listening to your favorite music, or spending a moment on a cherished hobby, these simple activities can brighten your day.
  • Schedule ‘me time’:
    Time to read, meditate, enjoy a hot shower, or savor a quiet cup of tea can help recharge your energy.

Mentally – Protecting your wellbeing

  • Ask for support:
    Accept help from family and friends with everyday tasks, whether it’s cooking, cleaning, running errands, or caring for other children. Sharing the load is a valuable act of self-care.
  • Connect with others:
    Programs like Redkite’s group support programs give families a chance to connect with others in a similar situation. Sharing your experiences with those who understand can be comforting.
  • Counselling: Consider Redkite counselling to cope with the stress, anxiety, or grief that may arise. We’re here from the moment a child is diagnosed, throughout treatment, and after treatment ends. If you’d like to talk – about anything, we’re here to listen.
  • Set boundaries:
    It’s perfectly okay to say “no” or take a break when things feel too much. Expressing your needs is an important part of caring for yourself.
  • Celebrate small wins:
    Find joy in the little moments with your child and family—whether it’s a shared laugh or a small medical milestone.
  • Talk to healthcare providers:
    If you have questions or concerns about your child’s care, a gentle chat with your healthcare providers – or using supportive tools like a simple diary from the Redkite Red bag, may help bring clarity.

Emotionally – Acknowledge your feelings

  • Give yourself permission to feel. It’s normal to experience fear, sadness, anger, and guilt. Talking to a family member, trusted friend or Redkite counsellor can help process and make sense of overwhelming emotions. Be kind to yourself. Acknowledge when things are hard and allow yourself space to focus on what feels most manageable.
  • Mindfulness and Relaxation
    – Practice Mindfulness: Sometimes a few slow, deep breaths or noticing a small detail around you can bring a gentle sense of calm. There’s no need for elaborate routines—just those tiny moments of pause.
    – Explore Calming Tools: If it feels right, you might find comfort in calming music, soothing apps, or guided meditations or Mindfulness exercises designed to ease stress.

Staying connected and enjoying family time

  • Connect with loved ones:
    If you have a partner, spending even a little time together—sharing a quiet conversation or a short walk—can be nurturing. Supporting each other emotionally can help take some of the pressure off yourself.  Reaching out to supportive friends or family members can be just as comforting.
  • Enjoy family moments:
    Engaging in simple activities with your child can be a form of self-care for both of you. Consider:
    – An outing to the park or a picnic in nature.
    – A relaxed movie time.
    – A nature walk or exploring a nearby garden.

We understand that while caring for a child with cancer, finding time for self-care can seem almost impossible. Some days will be harder, and that’s okay. Self-care isn’t a checklist—it isn’t about doing everything or doing things perfectly but about honoring the little moments when you can. It’s about giving yourself the same kindness and grace you offer others, caring for yourself in small ways that help sustain your energy.

Contact us to find out more about our Redkite services and how we can best support you and your family.

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