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Support for the holiday season
The holiday period holds different meanings for everyone. Every family is unique. Here are some ideas that may help you through this time of year.
For some families, the holidays are a time of joy and celebration; for others, it can bring challenges or mixed emotions. Whatever you’re feeling, that’s okay. It can help to approach the season in a way that feels right for you and your family.
Here are some ideas that might be helpful. While not everything will resonate, we hope you’ll find something that feels meaningful for you.
Allow Yourself to Feel
The holiday season can bring a range of emotions, from joy and excitement to sadness, anxiety, or exhaustion—even conflicting feelings at the same time. It’s natural to experience a mix of emotions and acknowledging them can help. Sharing your feelings with someone who understands or is writing them down can offer comfort. There’s no right or wrong way to feel—simply allowing your emotions to surface can sometimes make things feel a little lighter.
It’s also normal to grieve the traditions or moments that may not be possible this year. Giving yourself space to acknowledge this, without judgment, can help you process those emotions.
You might find it helpful to practice mindfulness, letting yourself be present with whatever emotion you’re experiencing without trying to change it. This could mean taking a few deep breaths, noticing sensations in your body, or gently focusing on your surroundings.
“Christmas is always an emotional and stressful time and New Year’s Eve is very hard also because the future is no longer known. You feel really vulnerable during this festive time when everyone is looking forward and planning and making resolutions.”
– Parent
Be Gentle with Yourself
The holiday season often brings a lot of expectations, both from others and ourselves. It’s easy to feel like you have to do it all but try to be kind to yourself. Trust that you know what feels right for you and your family. It’s okay to take things slowly, keep plans simple, or say no to things that don’t feel manageable.
As Redkite social worker Jo reminds us: “Remember that plans can always be changed. It’s okay.” Adjusting plans to suit your needs is completely fine, and you don’t have to meet every expectation. Be gentle with yourself through it all.
“Remember that plans can always be changed. It’s okay.” Jo, Redkite social worker
Conversations with Children
The holiday season might feel a little different this year, especially if treatment or health concerns affect what your family can do together. Children might feel unsettled by changes, and having open, gentle conversations can help them understand what’s happening. Letting them know what to expect—and why—can provide a sense of comfort and security.
If possible, try to be mindful of siblings’ needs as well. They may feel disappointed or left out, which is completely normal. Consider ways friends and family can offer extra support, such as giving them more attention or involving them in activities that help them feel seen and valued.
You might also consider starting a small new tradition together—something simple and special that feels right for your family this year. It could be watching a favorite movie, baking cookies, or creating something together—anything that fosters connection.
“Take the cue from your child about what they need from you. Some children will need more time to process; others could become anxious if they have too much time to think about things. Trust your instincts.”
– Redkite social worker
Share the Load
You don’t have to do everything on your own. If you feel ready to connect with others and have supportive family or friends, it’s okay to lean on them for help. Small gestures—like someone picking up groceries, wrapping gifts, or preparing a meal—can make a big difference and remind you that you’re not alone.
At the same time, it’s perfectly okay if you don’t feel up to being around others, or if support isn’t available. Give yourself permission to let go of expectations and focus on what feels right for you.
It’s not just about practical help; it’s also about letting people show care and support in meaningful ways.
“Let your friends and family in. Really let them in. It’s a big gift to allow someone to care for you.” – Stephen
Find joy in the moment
Sometimes, the most meaningful moments are the ones that come unexpectedly. Taking a moment to stop and notice the small things around you can help you feel more grounded. Whether it’s sharing a laugh with a loved one or enjoying a moment of calm, allowing yourself to find joy in simple moments can make a difference.
“While you think about your future, enjoy your present. Try to get as much enjoyment out of every day as you can.” – Lachlan
Flexibility
Making plans during times of uncertainty can be difficult, and that’s okay. It’s natural to want to plan ahead, but things may change, and adjusting can feel challenging. It’s okay to feel frustrated when plans don’t go as expected. You might decide not to make plans this year or opt for flexible ones that can adapt to whatever comes your way.
“Family and friends can help ease the pressure by not putting any expectations on you during the Christmas period, and just letting you know they are there if you need any help. Even offering to pick up Christmas presents or do a food shop for you can be so beneficial.”
– Kim, parent
Make Christmas Your Own
This holiday season, make Christmas your own. There’s no right or wrong way to celebrate. Whether that’s a quiet day at home, a small gathering, or embracing moments of connection, what matters most is what feels meaningful for your family. Ask yourself what brings comfort to your family this year and focus on this
Support is available
Every family’s experience of Christmas is unique, and there’s no ‘right’ way to approach the season. If you’re finding this time difficult, please don’t hesitate to reach out to Redkite. Through counseling, practical support, or simply being there to listen, we’re here to help.
“Having experienced Christmas with a child going through cancer treatment, we know how difficult this time of year is. The usual stresses and costs can be too much to cope with. At Christmas, Redkite was there, providing support.” -Debbie and Matthew, parents
Self-care
We often think of caring for others first, but taking care of yourself is just as important. When you care for yourself, you’re better equipped to support your loved ones.
Even small acts of self-care can make a big difference. Whether it’s enjoying a quiet cup of tea, stepping outside for fresh air, or sitting down to rest when you need it, these moments are essential.
Self-care might also mean setting boundaries, like saying no to overwhelming commitments or asking for help. By giving yourself permission to slow down and recharge, you’re creating space for your well-being while strengthening your ability to be present for others.
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